About Worldwide Marriage Encounter Singapore

The Marriage Enrichment program that has been transforming marriages for over 50 years in 94 countries around the world. The program involves a weekend experience that transforms the way spouses communicate to deepen their love for each other.

History (1952)
The story of Worldwide Marriage Encounter began in Spain in 1952 when a young priest, Fr Gabriel Calvo, began developing a series of conferences for married couples. Their focus was on the development of an open and honest relationship within marriage and learning to live out a sacramental relationship in the service of others.  In 1962, Fr Calvo presented the conferences as a weekend retreat to 28 couples in his native Barcelona.  Marriage Encounter was on its way!
In 1966, Fr Calvo and a couple addressed the International Confederation of Christian Family Movement in Caracas.  The Weekend spread to Latin America and to Spanish speaking couples in the United States.

Growth in the USA (1967) 
A couple and priest presented the weekend to seven couples and a few priests at the Christian Family Movement Convention at United States.  By the summer of 1968, 50 couples and 29 priests were presenting weekends in USA.
The New York area became the centre of Marriage Encounter under the leadership of Fr Charles Gallagher, SJ and a couple.   There was strong emphasis on the development of a Marriage Encounter  ‘community” to provide support for living the values learned through the weekend, especially for dialogue.  In addition, the renewal of the Sacrament of Matrimony was a strong focus, as a means for renewing the Catholic Church. Thus developed Worldwide Marriage Encounter.  As a result, Worldwide and National Marriage Encounter both exist today as two different expressions of the original weekend developed by Fr Gabriel Calvo.

Expansion out from USA 
In 1971, American couples and priests travelled to Belgium and later to England and overseas expansion grew rapidly.  WWME is now offered in numerous languages and dialects in 83 countries.
In addition to the Weekend, other programs have “spun off” of the Marriage Encounter Experience including Engaged Encounter, Evening for the Engaged, Choice, The Beginning Experience (for divorced and widowed) and Retrouvaille.

Expansion into Singapore (1979) 
Marriage Encounter Singapore started when Fr Jean-Pierre Benit (a Belgian missionary who had spent many years in Taiwan) and Sr Columba (a nun from The Good Shepherd Fraternity) dreamed of bringing Marriage Encounter to Singapore.  They formed a small organising committee with Sr Clare, Jim & Carmen, Stephen & Joan, and Peter & Bernadette, and established contacts with the Encounter communities in Australia, Canada and the United States.
The first Weekend was held on 6 – 8 April 1979 at the Ambassador Hotel for 25 couples and two priests.  Financial assistance came from the Encounter communities of Canada and Australia.  India had been given the responsibility to reach out to Singapore.  Their community sent Austin & Celine who together with Peter & Evelyn (an Australian couple working in the embassy in Kuala Lumpur) and Fr Jean-Pierre made up the Weekend presenting team.  India, and later the Philippines, continued to send couples to present subsequent Weekends in Singapore until local couples could take over.  The next exciting milestone was in March 1980, when Singapore “reached out” to Malaysia. A year after the first Weekend, the Encounter community launched a number of “Open and Apostolic” (O&A) programs like “Evening for the Engaged” and “Evenings for Parents”.  In 1981, the Marriage Encounter House in Punggol was opened, thanks to a generous donation from the Scheut Missions.  Two more programs were launched – CHOICE Weekend for young single adults and “MATRIMONY – Jesus Invites Us to Love” program for 14 – 16 year olds.  In 1982 this gathering momentum launched Engaged Encounter Weekends for couples planning to marry, and the Mandarin-speaking Weekends followed soon after. Solving individual marital problems has never been the goal of Marriage Encounter.  Instead, during the Weekend, a husband and wife are given the opportunity to share the emotions that so often are kept buried inside.  They are taught how to make such communication a part of everyday life.  Marriage Encounter emphasises the beauty of belonging totally to one another.

Marriage Encounter, Singapore Help Expansion into Sri Lanka / China (2003) 
In 2003, Marriage Encounter, Singapore and Marriage Encounter, Korea pledged to give financial aid to Marriage Encounter, Sri Lanka so that they can organise stay-in weekends. In 2005, Marriage Encounter, Singapore sent a couple and priest to Shenyang, China. The seed to spread of Marriage Encounter to other parts of China was thus planted.

Vision 
“Love One Another As I Have Loved You”

Mission 
To proclaim the value of marriage and Holy Orders in the Church and in the World.

Values

  • Responsible Relationship
  • Intimate Communication
  • Living Sacrament
  • Apostleship in the Church

 

Board Members

National Coordinating Priest
Fr Dominique Deme

National Coordinating Couple
Dominic & Fiona Ang

Board Couples
Jeffrey & Anne De Silva
Gregory & Elaine Ho
Sekar & Anitha Susaimanickam
Nicholas & Celeste Khoo

Mandarin Coordinating Team
Fr Henry Siew
Augustine & Sophia Tan

Indonesian Coordinating Couple
Buana & Rina Girisuta

Executive Team

Secretariat
Aldrin & Celine Thomas

Finance
Edric & Fion Koh

Registration
Reenie Tan

House Reservation
Joseph & Joanne Kang

House Maintenance
Meng Khoon & Rosa Wong

AV/IT
David & Clara Soon
Edy & Irene Simon

Service Teams

Love Circle Link
Samuel & Jacqueline Wong

Love Line
Michael & Su Lee Wong

Food & Hosting
Philip & Irene Doo

OutReach
Gabriel & Karren Kok

Prayer
Walter & Amelia Ching

Supplies
Ronnie & Vivien Soh

Welcome
Kenneth & Suelynn Koh

Who is Marriage Encounter for? 

ME is for married couples who want something more in their marriage ~ more fun, spontaneity, excitement, communication, understanding, romance, intimacy, passion, joy…

Many couples come to ME in their anniversary months.

Couples are never too young or old for ME. We have couples as “young” as 2 years married, to those who are 50 years married or more have – regardless of “age”, thousands of couples have been benefiting from the ME Weekend experience…

Come and see…

How does Marriage Encounter enhance a couple’s marriage? 

It provides an environment and time for couples

  • to focus on one another
  • to take a closer look at their marriage
  • to explore important areas in their marriage in a spirit of love and understanding
  • to gain new insights and confidence to enrich their marriage
  • to become re-acquainted with each other and strengthen their love

What happens at Marriage Encounter? 

A series of talks are presented by a team of trained couples and a priest

After each talk, couples are given time for private reflection and couple dialogue

Is there privacy? 

Yes, absolutely ! At the Marriage Encounter Weekend, couples are taught a special technique of loving communication. They put into practice this technique in the privacy of their own room.

There are no group discussions.

What else does Marriage Encounter do ?

It also provides couples an opportunity to look at their relationship with God and to better appreciate Marriage as a Sacrament of the Church.

How long is the ME Weekend?

It starts at 8 pm on Friday and ends at 6 pm on Sunday.

Where and when? 

Marriage Encounter Weekends are held on the 1st Friday of the month at:

The Marriage Encounter House , 201-B Seventeenth Avenue ,Punggol Road, Singapore 829651 . ( Weekend Booking Enquiry 9670 5390 ).

How much? 

A S$50 non-refundable registration fee secures your booking.

At the end of the Weekend, each couple is given a blank envelope for their Love- offering to help defray the cost of the Weekend.

My spouse and I would like to attend but cannot afford the cost …

Marriage Encounter welcomes all married couples who have the desire to deepen their couple love and strengthen their relationship.

Financial constraint is never a reason for missing out on the Weekend.  Please talk to us .

The Love-offering is personal and anonymous .  The Marriage Encounter movement is blessed to have many couples who, if they have the means, give generously to help defray the cost.

Do couples have to be Catholic? 

No. Marriage Encounter welcomes couples of all faiths.

Many Buddhists, Hindus, Anglicans, Methodists, Lutherans, etc. and free-thinkers come for ME.

Is Marriage Encounter also for priests and religious? 

Yes. Marriage Encounter is also for priests and religious who want to develop a deeper appreciation of their vocation.